What Is The Order Of Speeches At A Wedding? 

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Weddings are very important events in our lives. They mark the beginning of new relationships and family ties. The wedding ceremony is usually the highlight of the day.

There are several types of ceremonies, such as civil or religious, and they vary from country to country. In some countries, the bride and groom give their vows before the guests. Other couples prefer to exchange rings after the vows. Some even choose to start the celebration immediately after the vows.

The order of speeches at a Wedding Ceremony can be determined by the type of ceremony being held. For example, if it’s an interfaith marriage, then the rabbi will speak first, followed by the minister or priest. If it’s a secular wedding, then the best man speaks first, followed by the maid of honour. Then comes the father of the groom, of the bride, the bride herself, and finally the groom.

The order of speeches may also depend on who has been invited to attend the wedding. If you have many friends and relatives attending your wedding, then you might want to invite them all to speak first. However, if you only have close friends and family members coming to your wedding, then you should consider inviting them last. This way, everyone gets to say something special about you and your partner.

If you’re having a small wedding with just a few people, then you don’t need to worry too much about the order of speeches. You can simply ask each person to make a toast for you and your partner. It doesn’t matter what order you do this in.

Who Makes Speeches At A Wedding? 

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Several different wedding speeches are made at a ceremony. Some include funny stories about the bride and groom and others include heartfelt wishes for the future of the bride and groom. Traditional weddings from the 18th century would include raising a cup as a drink offering to their God and the Bride’s father would be the first person to drink from the glass to show to the guests that the wine wasn’t poisoned.

Here is a summary of the people who present speeches at a modern wedding:

Best Man – The Best Man is usually the brother of the groom or the best friend. He stands next to the groom and makes a short speech about the groom. He tells jokes, talks about the bride and groom, and generally makes fun of himself.

Maid Of Honour – The Maid Of Honour is usually the sister of the bride. She stands next to her sister and makes a speech about the bride. She talks about the bride’s personality, likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc.

Father Of The Groom – The Father Of The Groom is the father of the groom. He is usually very proud of his son and wants to share this pride with everyone else. He might tell funny stories about the groom growing up, or he might talk about how good the groom looks today.

Mother of The Groom – In some cultures, the mother of the groom is the one who gives the speech. In other cultures, the mother of both the bride and groom gives speeches. Either way, she is usually very emotional and talks about how wonderful the bride and groom are.

Bride And Groom – The Bride and Groom are the ones who get married. They are usually the centre of attention during the entire wedding. They are the ones who are getting married, so they naturally get the most time to talk. They might talk about why they decided to marry each other, or they might discuss their hopes and dreams for the future together.

Wedding Guests – The wedding guests are there to celebrate the marriage. They are the reason the bride and groom got married. So, it only seems right that they should have the chance to speak. They can either make a toast to the bride and groom, or they can make a toast to themselves.

Order Of Speeches At A Wedding Reception

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The traditional wedding speech order can differ according to what the person organising the wedding wants. Here is an example of the order of speeches at a modern wedding: 

Couples Parents

Firstly, sets of parents make their speeches so this could be the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom, the father of the bride and the father of the groom. Some parents may even decide to do a joint speech if possible. This would be one of the most important speeches as the bride’s family traditionally contributes a lot of money towards a wedding. It is also customary for the parents to give a toast to the newlyweds before the ceremony starts.

The Groom

The groom speech is usually given by the groom. He is the main speaker at the wedding party and has the most to say. He can talk about anything from how much he loves the bride, to how much he loves the wedding dress. If the groom is not speaking, then the maid of honour will probably take over.

Best Man

Next, the best man speaks. His job is to introduce the groom to the audience. He might say something like “Good morning” or “Welcome to our special day”. After that, he introduces the groom to the crowd.


Next, the groomsmen and bridesmaids make their speeches. If the groom has brothers, then these guys will probably be the first to speak. They might say something along the lines of “I am honoured to be here today “or “It is my pleasure to stand beside you on your big day”. Then, the bridesmaids will follow suit by saying something like “You look beautiful today”, “Thank you for inviting me to your special day”, or “This dress is amazing!”. These speeches are meant to be light-hearted and humorous. They may even tell embarrassing stories about the bride/groom. Groomsmen/Bridesmaids may also create joint wedding speeches.

Maid Of Honour Speeches 

Finally, the maid of honour makes her speech. Her job is to congratulate the bride and groom on their engagement. She might say something like “Congratulations on your engagement” or “I’m so happy for you two”.

After all the speeches are done, the bride and groom will make their speeches. They might thank everyone for coming to the wedding, or they might thank their families for helping them with the wedding. They might also thank the best man and maid of honour for being part of their special day.


Your wedding day is so important and everything should go to plan! Speeches at weddings are arguably one of the most enjoyable parts of the ceremony. Traditional speeches have been around for centuries, and getting to hear all the lovely things that family and friends have to say about the groom and bride and even funny anecdotes is part of what makes the day so special. The order isn’t too important, but if you were looking for a guide we hope this helped!

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